How to Give a Good Blowjob

Achieving the PERFECT BLOWJOB

Blowjobs...

Sucking is an area where most seem to be lacking skills - giving a blowjob has NOTHING to do with blowing. Rather the exact opposite.

• You should suck on it, and suck on it hard.
  Just as you would suck a lollipop, or a cigarette for those who smoke.
• The goal of a good blowjob is to find the most sensitive areas on your partner's cock and then to stimulate them with your mouth, tongue, and lips as much as you can.

• Forming a tight seal around your partner's cock is the key. However...there is one problem that's the most common in bad blowjobs. TEETH! Having teeth scrape the cock you're sucking is not only unpleasant, but it also hurts.
• Commonly the most sensitive areas on a guy's cock are the rim of the cock head, the tip, the top side of the cockhead, and at times the bottom side of the shaft.

TIPS:

• A good way to stimulate the rim of the cockhead is to form a tight ring around the cock with your lips, and to repeatedly let the rim of the cockhead force it's way through that ring as you suck him.

• To stimulate the top side of the cockhead during a blowjob, swirl your tongue around it on each top stroke. (Try occasionally turning your head clockwise and counterclockwise as you bob up and down while sucking him.)

• To stimulate the bottom side of the shaft, extend your tongue inside your mouth as much as you can without breaking the tight seal, and then firmly press your tongue against the shaft as you bob up and down sucking him.

• You should also use your hands during a blowjob. Some guys have problems staying really erect during a blowjob. It helps in this case to grip his cock firmly with one hand, make a ring around it with your index finger and thumb and place your hand at the base of his cock squeezing the base of the shaft, this usually makes his cock a little harder. Some guys get harder if you use a couple of fingers to press against the hard area just below his balls.

• You can stimulate the whole shaft by stroking it with your hand in rhythm with your sucking. A fun part of a blowjob can be playing with his balls. Be gentle though.

• Deep throating is something that feels really good for your partner, but can be quite a chore for you. The trick to getting that cock down your throat (down your esophagus, not down your trachea) is to keep pushing your head forward, and opening your mouth and sliding your tongue out as much as you can. Do not try to suck him while deep throating, it's impossible.

• Another very helpful tip is - if you're going to do this, be sure you do it on an EMPTY stomach. It has happened that deep throating triggers the gag reflex, and suddenly you may find yourself with a portion of your lunch or dinner in your mouth as you're giving someone a blowjob. This is not a very pleasant experience.
• Also, don't always expect your partner to cum from receiving a blowjob. Sometimes this rarely happens. Blowjobs feel really good, but getting off on them can sometimes be rare.
  

Here are several psychological factors that may come into play here:

degree of arousal,

environment,

performance

anxiety,

nervousness, circumstance and so on.

• A guy's inability to orgasm from your blow-job is not necessarily a direct reflection of your cock sucking abilities.If your situation allows it, and you think your ego can handle it, try asking your partner for completely honest feedback on this one. If you're determined to get him off, but it just doesn't seem to be happening, and your jaw feels like it's going to fall off - THEN TAKE A BREAK!

• If your partner is going to cum during a blowjob, it's up to you to decide whether to swallow his load or not. Suffice it to say that it's up to you to assess the risk of any given situation.

  • One thing should be noted, the taste of your partner's cum will vary, depending on what he's had to eat, and drink earlier.

  
  

6 Sex Mistakes Men Make

Sex Mistake No.1: You Know What She Wants

Men often make assumptions about what a woman wants based upon what they've done with other women. But women aren't all the same.

"You develop a repertoire as you mature sexually, but you should never assume that what worked for the last person is going to work for this person," Taormino says.

That applies not only to sexual predilections, but also to relationships, she says. "There are women who can have no-strings-attached sex, and women who can get attached very easily, and then everyone in between."

Sex Mistake No. 2: You Have All She Needs

Some women can't have an orgasm with less than 3,000 rpm. No human tongue or fingers can generate that kind of vibration. But men typically think something is wrong if a woman needs a vibrator.

"If the only way that a woman can achieve orgasm is with a vibrator, she's not broken," Taormino says.

Think of a vibrator as your assistant, not your substitute. Many couples use vibrators together. "While you're doing one thing, or two things, the vibrator can be doing something else," Taormino says.

Sex Mistake No. 3: Sex Feels the Same for Men and Women

Paget says there tends to be a "huge disconnect" between men and women in the ways that sex feels good.

"When a man has intercourse with a woman, and his penis goes into her body, that sensation is so off the charts for most men, they cannot imagine that it isn't feeling the same way for her," Paget says. "It couldn't be further from the truth."

The inside of the vagina is probably less sensitive than the outer parts for most women. Also, deep thrusting may not feel so nice on the receiving end. If the penis is too long, "it feels like you're getting punched in the stomach," Paget says. "It makes you feel nauseous."

Sex Mistake No. 4: You Know Your Way Around a Woman's Anatomy

Most guys know generally what a clitoris is and where to find it. That's not to say that they really understand it.

Men also lack information about how to touch it and how sensitive it is, Taormino says.

A touch that's bliss for one woman may feel like nothing special, or may even be painful for someone else. Some prefer indirect stimulation.

How can you find out how she likes to be touched? Try asking her.

Sex Mistake No. 5: Wet = Turned On

Guys sometimes get hung up if a woman doesn't get slippery enough for easy penetration. Don't worry about it.

"I think there's a myth that if you're turned on, you're wet," Taormino says. Not necessarily.

Some women tend to get wetter than others, and how much natural lubrication a woman has can change from day to day. It varies by the phase of her menstrual cycle, and it's subject to influences like stress and medications.

Sex Mistake No. 6: Silence Is Golden

A lot of guys think they should be silent during sex, but unless you speak up, your partner has to guess what's doing it for you and what isn't.

If you're respectful about it, a woman who wants to please you will probably appreciate some directions.

"I'm not saying push her head in your lap," Taormino says. "I think that, 'this is how I like it,' is a very useful conversation to have."